Why I Hesitate to Hand Out Advice to Parents

It Usually Sucks! 

Don't get me wrong; it's not that I generally give out crap advice, but most know that works for one person, usually isn't going to work for another. 

I learned this lesson early on when I heard over and over again that you should have your kids in bed by 8pm allowing them to get a full 12 hours of sleep. HAH! Even as an infant Matt has never slept longer 9 hours a day. Yes I said day, so if he had taken two, two hour, naps during the day as an infant, he wasn't going down for any longer than five hours that night.  

I'm sure you can do the math, but that means I would have had a WIDE awake baby at 1am. No thank you! As it was, I was lucky to get him to sleep past 4 or 5 am. 

To this day, he doesn't require a lot of sleep. But that is okay, we have found a sleep schedule for kids (the girls too) that fits everyone needs. We don't need to have kids snuggled up, fast asleep at the start of primetime TV to feel like good parents. 


The same can be said of advice on educational choices. 

Do I think homeschooling is the best option for my children and family, yes. Do I think it is best for most children and families, yes. Does it mean it is right for your children and family, maybe not. So, I'm not going to run out and tell you that you should be teaching your kids at home. If you make that choice on your own and ask me for advice, I'll offer it, but take it with a grain of salt, because just like one bed time doesn't fit all, one education path doesn't fit all. 

Again, I go back to Matt. Due to his memory issues simple task like singing nursery rhymes, saying his ABC's, learning math facts and even telling you where he lives have been huge task to accomplish. IF I stuck to the idea that he should have known half of these things by the time he was 6, I may have thought our homeschool was failing, but it wasn't. 

Matt has learned these things on his own schedule, when he was ready and that is OKAY. The is no hard rule that says your child must know XYZ by such and such date.  

As long as your kids is healthy, happy, growing and learning all of the parenting advice and educational timetables in the world don't mean a thing. 


So the best parenting advice I will EVER hand out to anyone is to ignore parenting advice. Do what works for your family!