Fat, Why do You Hate Me?

So, completely non-home-school related, I wanted to share with you something that is frustrating the flipping fudge, is good at the holidays, out of me.

I know it is a difficult concept for many to understand but I am skinny and not happy with my body. At 5’ 5’’ tall, my BMI is really low with my weight teetering between 91 and 93 pounds. I LOOK too skinny, my face looks sunk in and my collar and hipbones protrude.

Surely, there must be something medically wrong you say, nope. I've had all the test done and I am healthy and normal on the medical front. So now, you whisper in your head, “Is she a drug addict?” Nope, sorry to disappoint you, while I dabbled in my late teen years this mama knows better.

So what is the deal, why can’t I gain weight? Your guess is as good as mine is. Here is the frustrating part though. For the past two weeks, I have tried so hard to make sure I am consuming what I need to, tracking it all with SparkPeople. I need at least 2400 calories a day, 147 proteins and so on. It is hard to do this and still eat a healthy diet that isn't chock full of saturated fat, sodium and well just processed crap. I've been doing it though.

Now imagine my disappointment when I got on the Wii Fit yesterday for a body test to see that my weight had DROPPED further, to 89 pounds!

Catch your breath yet?

Yep, I am a 28-year-old mother with three kids who weighs only 89 pounds and my size 0 pants are falling off me. It really makes me want to cry.

So what is my point in sharing this you ask? Well, next time you run into someone exceptionally skinny and feel the need to make one of the following unsolicited comments, please don’t. It hurts, really it does. Unless she is a supermodel chances are she doesn't enjoy being this way for reasons such as trying to find age appropriate clothes or any clothes really that actually fit. Let us not forget a bra that fits if she has a little bust.

So remember please do not utter these words, it will be appreciated:

“Don’t you eat anything?”

“We need to get some fat on you, you don’t look healthy.”

“I wish I was a skinny as you!” (really you don’t)

Okay you get the point; I've probably heard a million other phrases since I was a teenager, but no point in rehashing them all.

Come back at a later date to find out if I've finally been able to gain some weight working towards my goal of at least 105 pounds.

How I Offend Society by Being a Natural Parent

Namibie, une femme Himba et son enfant

So, I ran across a tweet from Dagmar Bleasdale last night that directed me to the heated debate going on in the comments of one of her blog post that discusses the how she is nursing her four year old.

At first, I was thrilled to see all of the wonderful encouraging replies she received of other mothers who have nursed or are nursing their children who are two to four years old. Then the negativity began to pour in which posters shared their disgust, claiming that these mothers must be physiologically damaging their children.

Image via Wikipedia

After reading, I decided I am going to share with you my blog friends and all of my friends and family on Facebook who are visiting for the first time, how our family operates, our beliefs and how I manage to offend so many people simply by parenting my children the way nature intended.

Let’s start from the very beginning, childbirth. While I was never brave enough to attempt a home birth with my three children, all three were delivered naturally (meaning through the vagina) not by C-section, with as little drugs and intervention as possible. A mid-wife in the hospital delivered my third. If a C-section had been required for mine or my children’s safety I would have agreed, but do not believe in voluntary or scheduled C-sections. My second, Goldilocks was two weeks late, and while we decided to be induced at that point, the thought of removing my sweet baby girl via C-section simply because she was not ready would have never happened.

I would also like to point out that I did not agree to any extra testing while pregnant or a 3D sonogram, as they are not necessary and have the potential to cause more harm than good.

Now, let’s move on to feeding the baby. Yes, I breastfeed, and yes I am an extended nurser. While our first was on soy formula until he was two and did not breastfeed, our middle daughter weaned at the age of 3 years and 3 months and our youngest is still breastfeeding at the age 24 months.

GASP….pick you self up off the floor now while I share with you a few thoughts and facts on breastfeeding. Firstly, for those of you that just found yourselves flabbergasted and disgusted, chances are you are stuck in the modern concept that society has warped into that associates the breast and the human body as sexual objects instead of what they are intended for. You are probably the person that scowls if you catch a glimpse of a mother feeding her baby in public. This is not natural, and it is beyond me how society has managed to become so warped that they would allow what is best for their own kind to be swept under the table.

Now, let’s move on to the facts. Dr. Katherine Dettwyler of Texas A and M University, sums up her finding quiet well here, which are that “The minimum predicted age for a natural age of weaning in humans is 2.5 years, with a maximum of 7.0 years.” A simple study of science of and human history, supports the findings and reveals how socially warped the world has become. So for those who choose to present with the question of “really, your still nursing her, shouldn’t she have stopped a long time ago?” I am simply going to begin replying with “really, you’re not nursing her, are you that uneducated?” Harsh, maybe, but I feel that women who choose to parent the way nature intended have been ridiculed and made to feel ashamed by society long enough.

Next….for those of you that do not do this yourself and did not know that I did, it will really blow your mind….I cloth diapered. Yes, my kids pooed in diapers and I actually put in my washer and cleaned them each day. Mind blower, I know! Really, people, it’s quite simple, we were not meant to have plastic and chemicals wrapped around our bum 24 hours a day. Not only is it an incredibly smart choice for your child it is cost effective and SO MUCH BETTER for the environment.

If I haven’t managed to freak you out or click away yet, here it comes, I DO NOT VACCINATE my children. Sure, they have some of them, Hep vacs and such, but really, why would I voluntarily pump my innocent little children full of chemicals, most times 5 different shots in one visit? It is NOT Natural! Many of the shots given to children are just not necessary in my opinion. They were developed in a time when hygiene was lacking and clean water supplies were not always available. We do not face these issues today and my children deserve the chance to grow up the way nature intended without a slew of chemicals coursing through their veins.

Now to round out the life that I live and love that leaves many feeling as if I just drug my nails across a chalkboard. I stay home and educate my children at home because that is what my husband and I have chosen to do. My life’s dreams do not include a successful career, large beautiful home or summer vacations to Europe. My dream is to raise my children in a loving home, teaching to appreciate the Earth around them and how to live a much more simple life.

With the exception of one or two meals my husband may make during the week and the few times we eat out, I cook for my family three meals a day, every day and 75 percent of that food is home-made, not processed garbage out of a box or freezer aisle and we sit and eat dinner together as a family every night.

Through the inspiration of Charlotte Mason, my children will leave my home when they grow up with the skills and knowledge to cook for themselves, how to grow their own food, how to mend their clothes if need be and so much more. So while my choices in parenting and natural living to do offend so many on a daily basis, they are mine and my families choices, and you do not have to agree but I suspect you are capable of respecting them. For while I may not agree with yours, I do the same. For deciding how we are going to carry out our life on this tiny little speck in space and what our true purpose is, is an individual choice for each to decide.

A Home School Smack Down: A Different Perspective

Welcome Friday Blog Hoppers! I wanted to share my thoughts on educational choices with you today. If you haven’t made your way to parentdish yet to read the article “SmackDown: Would You Homeschool Your Kids?” please do.

Now, I am published on parentdish but find myself rather disappointed that this is what they chose to use to represent the varying viewpoints on a families decision to homeschool.

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Halfway Through Homeschool Week One of 2010-2011

This is the serene image I had envisioned for our first week back homeschooling. 

Today marks the halfway point of our first week of school for the year and let me tell you, I am ready for it to be over so we can start fresh next week. Why you ask? Well, while the academics of the week have gone well so far, the scheduling and routine of it all, not so much.

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A Day in the Life of Our Home School

Welcome Not Back to School Blog Hoppers to week 4 “A day in the life.” Warning I am long winded so I may lose you half way though.

As I sit to think about how a day goes about here at the Tweet, I’m amazed really that you do not find me at 8 pm every evening with a stiff drink in my hand and my hair standing on end. As BUSY as it is each day though, we get through it well and for the most part Mama Bear here is still sane at bedtime.

We officially start back to school tomorrow, so I am going to share with you the plans for the day. (By the way, we are night owls despite the fact that Papa Bear leaves for work at 5 am each morning Tues. – Sat.)

Sorry, if you are viewing this before Tuesday, no fun pics for you, I will have them up on Wednesday though.

Between 7 and 8 am, I am up having my coffee and completing my long list of computer items. Before the kiddo’s get up, I attempt to:

  • Check Email
  • Check Twitter Accounts
  • Check blog comments and write new post
  • Review my list of writing jobs for the day, line up new jobs if necessary

At this point, if the kiddos are still sleeping I will go ahead and start working, writing an article or two.

Kids are all up 9 am usually and it is time for breakfast, getting dressed, brushing teeth, you know all that fun stuff.

Once breakfast is over, we head into our morning chores. For Tuesday August 24th that would be

  • Mama Bear: Make bed, straighten, dust & vacuum bedroom, lay out school supplies for day
  • Baby Bear: Make bed, straighten bedroom, vacuum bedroom
  • Goldilocks: Make bed, straighten bedroom, dust bedroom

After Breakfast, it is time for learning block A. For our first day of school, this will consist of:

  • Review Date and what we plan to do for the day and do our mornings “Sing, Chant, Rhyme”
  • Read Alouds – Rhyme: “Boys and Girls Come Out to Play”; Story: “The Duckling Who Didn't Know What to Do”
  • Reading Activity – Pick a book from the reading book basket and read aloud to each other, talk about the front and back cover as well as the title.
  • Instruction Time: Phonics/Phonemic Awareness using the method of ear, tongue, sight then hands-on training.
  • Word Work Activity – Finger-paint upper and lowercase M
  • Writing Activity - Make a list of words with the M sound, draw a picture and label it.
  • Science/Social Studies LA Activity – Make a favorite pet chart
  • Instruction Time – Patterns
  • Independent Math – identify and extend patterns

When we finish our morning school block, it is time to exercise. This could be yoga, cardio, outdoor play. It depends on the weather and everyone’s mood for the day. If I need to get them motivated, cardio/aerobics type work it is. If they need to mellow out a bit, yoga is the plan.

Yay…it is time for lunch at 1 pm

After lunch, we start Learning block B while Little Red takes a nap.

  • First, will review the Pledge of Allegiance and sing it as warm up to getting back into a music program.
  • Then it is time for “Animal Fact/Animal Fable” as a read aloud.”
  • Then will read from “The Complete Book of Animals” covering the basics about animals. The kiddos will then write (draw for Goldilocks) in their journals about what they learned.

Now it is free time for the kiddo’s while Mama Bear gets down to business writing. (Of course, I have to start dinner in this time too and usually break up a fight or two, but I manage to get SOME work done.

At 5 pm, Papa Bear gets home from work and we have dinner.

After Dinner, it is family time. Playing a game, watching a movie/TV or whatever floats or boat for that day.

Then it is time for evening chores. I’m cleaning up the kitchen and any random clutter that accumulated that day while the kiddo’s tidy up their toys for the day.

Time for Dessert!

Kiddo’s take their showers, brush their teeth and so on while Papa Bear goes to bed.

Little Red usually heads of to bed while we do stories, watch a movie and wind down to bed. I try to sneak in some more work here if I can.

Sometime between 10 and 11, the big kids and I head off to bed. If I still have work to do, I send them to bed and will stay up another hour or so and get it done.

Then we do all over again the next day.

Reading this, I think I just gasped for air as I realized this does not even include soccer season. We are not playing again until the spring, but when we do that means practice twice a week and games on Friday evenings.