After the Door Shuts and the Footsteps Die: My Own Super Mom Reflection & Thanks to Dr. Mommy

After the door shuts and the footsteps die, I find myself sitting lost and empty. It happens every time I find myself at home alone with each of the kids gone for the day. Instead of the rush of exhilaration I expect, the deep breath of a day of freedom, I sit fighting back tears, realizing that there is nothing to me without my kids.

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After the door shuts and the footsteps die, I find myself sitting lost and empty. It happens every time I find myself at home alone with each of the kids gone for the day. Instead of the rush of exhilaration I expect, the deep breath of a day of freedom, I sit fighting back tears, realizing that there is nothing to me without my kids.

You see, after ten years of putting my children first, my friends no longer invite me out. The fact is, I can barely even call them friends anymore. For the most part the women that I would have once trusted my life with are no more than mere acquaintances.

I haven’t held a real job in nine years and have never really taken the time to pursue a hobby other than writing all this time, so when I’m left to my own devices I just sit and stew over what my life has become and what I had dreamed it would be.

Please don’t assume that I am miserable being a stay at home mom. I love my children dearly and could not imagine leaving my home every day and only seeing them for a few hours. I’m just not happy with myself. I’m not happy with the fact that I have always put what I want on the backburner as guide my children along and stand as crutch for husband for support.

This is why the opening keynote from Dr. Daisy Sutherland, Dr. Mommy, at SheCon, resonated with me on such a deep level. I already know in my heart that I need to make changes. Having the message broadcasted to me loud and clear that we don’t have to be super mom was just what I needed.

I know I’m on the right track, after all, telling my husband and kids that I was going to SheCon and that they would just have to deal without me for two days was the first time I had done something for “Me” in a very long time. I’m going to continue to make changes to get myself out of that “Super Mom” mind set following great tips from Dr. Mommy. Here are a few quotes I jotted down during the session to share with you.

 

“Leave a legacy for your kids. Kids remember good memories.”

“Be a power mom, not a super mom. Let go of the labels!”

“Make your kids responsible. Set rules!”

“Communicate without dictating, then you can have fun.”

“We are not bionic women. Take care of your health. Eat right, sleep, drink water and control your stress.”

“Take care of you first, then your spouse and then your kids. Eventually your kids will grow up and leave the home. You still want a good relationship with your spouse once they are gone.”

“Set a timer for your kids and for you to complete task. Five to fifteen minutes at a time to clean up.”

“Do everything in moderation. Don’t go to bed stressed out.”

“Your spouse will appreciate you more when you appreciate them.”

 

This is just a small sampling of the wonderful keynote. To get the full breadth of Dr. Mommy’s inspiration go check out her website and Pre-Order her book “Letting Go of Super Mom” now on Amazon and Barnes & Noble.

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